When the Wareham born and bred Scotty Monteiro, Jr. turned 21 years old, his aunt Wendy Monteiro called him to see if he wanted to hang out -- fully expecting that Scotty would want to spend time with his friends rather than his not-so-cool aunts.

But Scotty obliged, not only agreeing to go with his aunts to Provincetown for some drinks, but also agreeing to being the designated driver -- even on his 21st birthday.

It was the type of thing that Scotty, the eldest boy of Scotty Monteiro, Sr. and Heidi Singleton, was prone to doing, according to aunt Wendy Monteiro.

The third annual Scotty Monteiro Jr. Foundation Golf Tournament will be held on Saturday, May 19, at the Bay Pointe Club in Onset, bringing back the memory of his life and tragic loss to members of the Wareham community.

"He was always our go-to kid. We could always depend on Scotty for everything," Wendy Monteiro said. "He would baby-sit for you, go to the store for you, … pick you up if you needed a ride."

A couple of months after his 21st birthday, Scotty Monteiro succumbed to mindless violence while once again attempting to do something for another.

Monteiro was attending a Wareham house party on September 4, 2009 when alleged gang members from New Bedford spotted a gold chain -- later it was rumored that the chain wasn't even real gold -- on the neck of one of the party-goers, according to Wendy Monteiro.

The alleged gang members attempted to rob the party-goer and Scotty Monteiro tried to diffuse the situation.

"He was always the one who was trying to keep the peace," Wendy Monteiro said. "Before somebody told me [that he tried to help], I knew instantly what happened, because I know Scotty so well."

Scotty Monteiro suffered a gunshot wound by an alleged gang member. He was transported to Tobey Hospital and then Beth Israel Hospital in Boston, but passed away on September 5, 2009.

Scotty Monteiro's death sent a shock wave through his family and friends. But what was unexpected, according to Wendy Monteiro, was the outpouring of support that came from the community.

More than 3,000 names were written in the guestbooks at Monteiro's funeral. A candlelight vigil was held in Onset, with help from Nicole Micelli, the manager at Salerno's Function Hall.

"It wasn't until he died that I realized how much of an impact he had on the community," explained Wendy Monteiro. "It was at that point we said, 'Let's not let Scotty die in vain.'"

Scotty Monteiro's family and friends created the "Scotty Monteiro Jr. Foundation, Stop the Violence," a nonprofit organization that supports anti-violence educational programs in schools and in the greater community.

The goal is to prevent the type of violence that took away Scotty's life, Wendy Monteiro said.

"People think, that couldn't happen to me, or to my son, or I don't do things like that, but this is something that can happen to anyone, and we need to do what we can to stop the violence," Monteiro said.

The organization recently brought Chris Herren, a former Boston Celtic who ended up homeless after losing his career to addiction, to speak at Wareham High School, because "drugs and violence go hand-in-hand," Monteiro said.

In addition to speakers, the foundation would like to bring in programs into schools that can teach about anger management, conflict resolution, and many other topics.

"Violence is a tree," Monteiro said, "and there are different branches...such as domestic abuse and bullying."

The Katie Brown Educational Program of Fall River is one such educational initiative that brings teachers into schools for age-appropriate and grade-appropriate classes to teach kids about relationship violence. "It costs $40,000 a year to do it, ideally one day I would love to be able to do it," said Monteiro.

Soon after the candlelight vigil, friends of Scotty Monteiro came together for an under-21 dance party with black and red balloons, the colors symbolizing the death of a young man and a gunshot wound.

It was the first fundraiser for the then-fledgling foundation, which now holds an annual "Texas Hold 'Em" card tournament as well as the golf tournament at the Bay Pointe Club, two activities that Scotty Monteiro enjoyed tremendously, Wendy Monteiro said.

The May 19 golf tournament starts at 12 p.m. with registration at 11 a.m. There will be golf prizes, a 50/50 raffle, auctions, and dancing until midnight. Tickets cost $125 per person and include golf, a cart, and a steak dinner. Anyone who registers and pays by May 1 will save $25.

The Foundation is also selling black and red t-shirts, hooded sweatshirts and bracelets with Scotty's signature, a stylistic "SM" that was well known amongst his friends as standing for Scotty Monteiro.

"We want people to see the 'SM' and to think, 'Stop the Violence,'" said Wendy Monteiro. "I think violence is 100% preventable. We can definitely put an end to it through education and awareness."

For more information about the Scotty Monteiro Jr. Foundation, visit www.scottymonteirojrfoundation.org. For more information about the golf tournament, contact Wendy Monteiro 508-291-1925 or wendymonteiro@verizon.net.